How to survive this heatwave in Sydney with a newborn?

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The Department of Child and Family Health Nursing released some ideas on their facebook which we can follow: https://www.facebook.com/1164259383603267/photos/pcb.2454762391219620/2454759431219916/?type=3&theater 

But I also have another tip from a store which I am a big fan off called Mamaway which has many items with the technology that balances temperatures and help babies feel cool:

-          Pram/capsule liner that keeps the baby cool and is NASA certified ( https://www.mamaway.com/au/product-detail/13404WF)

-          Mattress which I use specially during the day in the baby box (I will talk about the box more below)

-          Baby sling with the same material inside (which I will buy when my baby is 4 months), but is on special now for $99, so I am really tempted to buy now. (https://www.mamaway.com/au/product-detail/A405160892ZM)

-          Maternity Pillow – Which I used while pregnant to help me sleep and now I use as feeding pillow and it keeps by baby fresh while nursing. (https://www.mamaway.com/au/product-detail/A509180401YF)

Those items are really helping us survive this heatwave.

Also, about the baby box, in Finland when the baby is born the government offers a free box for the family and Mamaway brought this idea to Australia and is giving this same box to all newborns. You just need to bring your Yellow card to any Mamaway store. I got mine and it is very handy as I can have my baby sleeping anywhere in the house. When the baby grows older the box can be used as playpen and later as storage, so it is useful plus it is FREE 😊

This store is inventive and a trip there is worth as you can also find pregnancy and post birth belts ( which I have both too )  and clothes that are fashionable but very useful while pregnant or breastfeeding. ( Have a look at their winter range with the jacket that you can keep baby inside.  I have 3 from my last pregnancy is it is very nice - https://www.mamaway.com/au/product-detail/M104172062C1S)  and you can see my post about the jackets 2 years ago here: https://www.facebook.com/momafter30/photos/pcb.306705496336333/306705279669688/?type=3&theater 

Mamaway have stores at Burwood, Chatswood, Hurstville, Castle Hill and Silverwater but you can also shop online 😉 www.mamaway.com/au/

By the way I am not related to the store, just a big fan of new things 😊

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Tips on how to make your baby sleep more since they are newborn without using a cry out method

I have been to many classes, read many books and even being to Karitane with my 1^st baby and I learn many things I did wrong and I know how much I suffered with her. For the second baby I am using many ideas of what I think would be helpful to make my baby boy settle on a better way.

First thing we need to remember is that babies are born knowing how to sleep, what they learn is how to stay awake and what they like or not on the word out here, so we are the ones teaching them to like for example “rocking to sleep”. With this in our minds here are my tips:

Since the baby is born, we need to let the babies sleep, I would say the maximum waking time of a newborn need to be 1 hour and we should be able to feed, clean and put the baby to back to sleep in this time frame. This will make a very happy baby as sleeping well during the day will mean the baby will be rested to sleep well at night too.

During this 1 hour awake we should be able to feed the baby well to make him full, change his nappy and have 10-15min wake time doing tummy time or playing. When the baby wakes up if the baby is very hungry, ideally, we should change him first, so he doesn’t associate waking up with food, after that we can feed the baby and have time for a little play, the worse thing we can do is to let the baby sleep while feeding or in our arms. ( Yes it is nice but if we do that over and over again, guess what he will need when he wakes up in the middle of the night?)

The goal is to put him awake in his bed, so he can learn to self-settle. The “dream” is for him to find a way to learn how to sleep by himself. Same as us, we don’t just lay down and sleep. and babies are the same, so we need to find a clue that helps them to sleep. There are many things we can try: music, wrap, tapping on his bottom, rocking the cot, essential oils, dummies, comforter toys etc, but here is the tricky thing, whatever they get used to they will ask when they wake up, so I would recommend to try to find something for them to rely on that doesn’t depend on you.

I try to use music (that can keep playing whole night), wrapping (at least until he grows older) or a comforter toy that he can look at and reminds him is time to sleep and some essential oils smell in the room. It doesn’t mean I don’t try other things on emergency days, but as much as possible I try to rely on those self-settling clues.

The whole idea behind it is that after they start to grow older they start to sleep longer and as they wake up see/hear/feel/smell the “clue” (music, comforter, wrap) and go back to sleep by themselves so they will only wake you up if they are really hungry or need a nappy change as for settling they will not need you anymore.

Sometimes the baby doesn’t want to sleep that easily so I just get him and try again, talking to him, rocking him a bit (without sleeping) and when he is drowsing again try putting him on the cot with the clues and at some point he will recognize the message, it may take some days and tries as he is already used to other clues, but the persistence will really pay off when they start to grow up.

So here is my quick guide of what I am trying to do with the second baby:  

Wake up

Change, Feed, Play (1-hour maximum)

Back to Cot Awake

Clue to sleep

Sleep 2-3 hours or longer 😊

For bath time I try as much as possible to follow a routine too, with bathing at the same time ( on the 6pm – 8pm time frame) and feeding right after it and this is the only time I do feed just before putting my baby on the cot as I want him to be very full to have the longest sleep at this time which usually starts to happen at 2 months old. (Sometimes I even squeeze 2 feeding one before bath and one after so he is really full and sleep longer, this is the only time he can go up to 90 min awake).

So far things are going to plan as much as possible and he is self-settling most of the time. I hope to give very good news soon when he starts to have longer sleeps but just to have him sleep 2-3 hours solid sleeping without needing my help, I am already quite happy.

A mom after 30 looking forward to good sleep

1st baby and 2nd baby labor – Differences and similarities

After having such an easy labor for my first baby birth I was very hopeful to have an even quicker one for the second time but also scared as we never know what is in store for us, we can make plans but the reality is that we should take things as it comes when talking about labor.

One my 1^st labor as I wrote before all happened quickly and I only had 1 hour and 40 minutes in the hospital before meeting my baby girl. I didn’t have to use any analgesia but did have a 3^rd degree tear, which is far from ideal, so the weeks after it were quite painful with stiches and taking antibiotics to heal. Still I considered it to be perfect as all was even better than I expected.

On the 2nd labor I planned to do all the same, labor at home as much as possible and go to the hospital at the very end just to deliver the baby. I booked the birth center, as I didn’t see the need of a delivery suite, so the plan was to have all as natural as possible.

But as plans are only plans at 40 weeks my baby was not giving many signs of coming out and the doctors worried about his lack of movement, so they booked an induction at 40 weeks +1 day (My birthday, what a gift 😊 ). The plan was to make the body start labor as I was already 2cm dilated they broke my water at 9am and made me walk, I went to have some coffee and little shopping around the hospital for 2 hours, but unfortunately this didn’t start the labor so I had to start taking the drip and at this time the birth center was out of question. They started giving me the hormone for contractions ( Syntocinon ) at 11:30am and until 1pm I didn’t feel a thing.

At 2pm the contraction started to be regular and very constant every 1 -2 minutes and that was the biggest difference, I didn’t have the 3 minutes rest between contraction they were very intense and very quick. I did the same as I did on my last labor and didn’t stop moving having a very active birth but the pain was really strong so I asked the midwife to check how many cm dilated I was and she said 4cm, so I still had some time to go so she put a little clip on baby’s head to get the baby’s heart beat while I was moving around the room.

At 3pm I was tired but started to have the urge to push, the midwife was quite sure was too early but let me try but when she checked I was still only 6cm dilated so she told me to stop pushing but unfortunately, I could not stop pushing. For that reason, she tried giving me gas which I refused, and she called the OB, he came at 3:30pm to try to calm me down but I told him the baby was coming. He decided to check again and “voila” I was 10cm dilated and ready to have the baby ( I told so)… so I started pushing but having irregular contractions did no help much as they were only 30sec long, so I could not push the baby out all the way, after 2 pushes things changed the doctor just told me: “Baby is coming out but it is stuck, his heart beat went flat so we have to do a episiotomy and vacuum him on the next contraction”. I had no way to say anything other than “DO IT” if his life was at risk, I could not deny anything. He gave me some local anesthetic, did the cut and another contraction came so he said: “push for your life” …or something like this and I did push even after the contraction stopped and at 3:52pm my baby was out without even the need for the vacuum.

My baby boy was immobile for a couple of seconds and the whole room stopped with him, the doctor said to give him a chance to recover by himself and couple of seconds later he started coughing and was able to spit out some water and started crying. This was the biggest relief of my life.

After an very eventful and quick labor I had another baby in my hands. This time I all I wanted was to go home so the next day in the morning in less than 24 hours after having my baby I was going home relief and accomplished for being able to have another baby healthy and without much intervention ( just an episiotomy which I would do it again as it made my recovery much easier than my 3rd degree tear from the first baby) 😊

I can’t thank enough the midwifes, doctors and staff of St George Hospital, they were as good as the staff at Royal Randwick. Both are amazing (PUBLIC) hospitals and I am very proud of being in their hands.

A mom for the second time after 30 and now even closer to 40 :)

How am I preparing for my 2nd labour and how I did on the 1st one:

I had a very good 1^st labour and I am unsure what exact made it so good, or if was a combination of all but I will try my best to have a very similar one now. This may not work for everyone but if you want to give it a try here are my tips and ideas I used last time:

Watch for signs of the labor approaching:

I had all the signs below, some people may not have it, but here they are:

-          Baby movements can slow down 1-2 days before the baby is coming as he is saving energy for the task ahead

-          The mucus plug can come out couple of days before the labor which means the passage will be open

-          Diarrhea and vomiting is normal on the day that the labor is starting, which is your body trying to clean up to make more room for the baby to come out.

Help your baby come out:

There are many theories on what to do when you start your labor, I used the active birth techniques ( Birth Skills - http://www.jujusundin.com/), combined with some other ideas I heard before labor and had my own plan on what would work for me:

-          My main focus was to keep moving and match the pain. In the beginning as the pain was not strong I just moved slowly, tried to go to sleep and had long hot baths. As it progressed was my time to match the pain, so I started moving more, bouncing on the yoga ball, had my hips side to side, stumping the floor and pressing stress balls. All this specially during the contraction time. This was the time where the baby was pushing to come out, the body was pushing to come out and I had to help. But when the pain was gone after 1 minute I would just rest as I could not waste my energy. So it was 1 minute active, 3 relaxing. That is the only reason why it is possible for us women to birth, if this was a constant pain we would not be able to handle as much.

-          Be calm and secure, have a good environment. I brought many of my favorite music, oils, pictures so I could feel like I was home. I had the baby at the delivery centre but I didn’t want it to look like a hospital as this could make me scared and it could stop labor.

-          But also laughing really helped me so we kept it all very informal. I had my whole family in the labor room with me (husband, mum and sister) and by making jokes and being not stressed I was able to also help the labor by releasing good hormones on my body. The funniest moment was when the midwife gave the gown to change, so here I come out of the toilet with my gown and undies on and the opening to the front and the midwife says on a joking voice: ”Please have some dignity the opening is to the back” – How would I know? I never had a baby before, in my mind they had to access the belly somehow… so I just replied joking too: “Are you asking a pregnant woman to have dignity? Sorry I lost mine long ago” We all laughed so hard and 30 minutes later my baby was already in my arms… Not that this was the reason, but it was quite funny, and I am quite sure it helped 😉

-          Be mentally prepared to help. This is an interesting one, but I do believe it 100%. At every contraction I had to move but also think: “My body is opening; my baby is coming down and turning the correct way to come out” This was my mantra and I kept believing it 100%. Every contraction was making my baby come closer to me and I was there for her all the way.

I hope some mum can use at least some of those ideas to help them have a good labor I would be happy 😊 Here is also a link for those amazing drawings from the picture ( affirmations) that I found from a doula that can resume a lot of what I used on the day.

https://www.etsy.com/ca-fr/shop/RoxanneMarcouiller

A mum after 30 planning her next labor 😉

2nd pregnancy – Vomiting and Ligament Pain

I hear from everyone that every pregnancy is different, and I now agree. I had a very uneventful 1^st pregnancy, not much pain, worked until last days, an easy delivery and all. But this pregnancy has been different:

-          First 3 months I was vomiting all the time, to the extend of going to the GP as it was non-stop and with very low blood pressure they had to keep me in the infirmary and if I was not good in 1 hour they were going to call the ambulance. I got better came home and only after week 14 I started feeling like myself again.

-          On week 20 I started feeling a very strange sharp pain under my right side of the belly and by week 23 it developed to a constant pain. After being to the hospital 4 times because of the pain (sometimes even with high blood pressure) they decided to do many ultrasounds ( renal, stomach and pregnancy) only to find out all is normal so I must be having ligament pain, which is quite unberable.

-          I am now 25 weeks the pain continues and I have to deal with it by using a belt, which has been helpful (I got Mamaway the one in the picture which is ergonomic and can grow with my belly - https://www.mamaway.com.au/maternity-belt ) also my belly is big and pointy which people say is a sign of a boy and as it is really a boy I now think for each gender the pregnancy can be very different.

An eventful 2^nd pregnancy of a Mom After 30 😉

Molar pregnancy was back or was I really pregnant now?

After my D&C in November where I found out I have had a Partial molar pregnancy the doctors said I had to monitor monthly for 6 months where I would need to have my HCG as 0 to make sure the molar would not be back.

I was doing all my tests and they were ok but on March/18 I got the call requesting me to return to the hospital as my HCG was up again. They sent me directly to an early dating scan but could not see anything. The risk of pregnancy was small as I was on the pill but because I changed pills in February the risk was not 0, but the risk of the molar be growing again was what really worried the doctors.

After 1 week I did another dating scan and now they could find a n egg, but it was an empty one which still was still not good, so I kept being monitored and my HCG kept increasing week by week too.

One more week passed and I did another ultrasound and on this one they could finally see a fetus… it was amazing to hear that, they could not find a heartbeat but just the fact that the fetus was there gave us hope that the molar was not back so they sent me to do a Harmony test as there I would be able to see more and make sure all was ok.

The Harmony test is not a cheap test (AU$650) but can show genetic disorders and also the sex of the baby so I decided to find out at this point as well. There was a quick ultrasound at 10 weeks with a blood test and a more complete ultrasound at 13 weeks and at the end we could even hear a heartbeat.

We found out we were having a beautiful baby BOY so we ended up doing a reveal the sex on my daughters’ 2^nd birthday (which was only 3 days away) and announced all together.

We got so excited, the doctors were also happy but gave me a bit of a lecture of how I should have waited, but luckily it all worked out at the end.

Full video here: https://www.facebook.com/juliane.gold/videos/10160474414690125/ 

I now a happy MOM after 30 with a second baby due 14/Dec/2018 😊

Pregnant again – Lost the Baby – D&C procedure - Partial Molar

The month of September 2017 was quite a hectic one. I had a trip to Brazil planned for 01/Nov, one of my best friend’s wedding to attend in Wollongong at the end of the month plus all the regular day by day routine with my toddler. At the middle of the month I realized I missed my period and went to the GP thinking I was too stressed and found out I was pregnant.

It was completely unplanned, but we got quite happy and started making all the plans, from my calculations I was going to have another June baby (June/18). And as it was my second baby I already started telling many people without worrying too much. On my first dating scan the doctor said that baby would either be too small or I even had a chance of being pregnant of twins, as my mom is a twins we didn’t think it was strange and the excitement continued to grow.

On a second dating scan, 1 week later I found out things were not as good. From there I was sent to the St. George Early Pregnancy Clinic which I had to come almost every second day, doing tests and ultrasounds, until they decided that I had to do a D&C as there was a very small chance that I had a partial molar pregnancy.

I went to my friend’s wedding on the weekend (had to break the news there as I could not drink as my surgery was booked Monday) and had my D&C on Monday morning at St. George Hospital. The whole system was amazing. I am very afraid of any procedure, but they made me calm and before I knew it was all over and by 5pm I was out of the hospital. My trip to Brazil was booked for Friday so I had 3 days to recover from the general anesthetics and I was completely fine to travel with my toddler 😊.  While in Brazil I received an email from the Hospital that a biopsy was done on the fetus and I did have had a partial molar so I would have to monitor for 6 months to make sure any left over tissue would not keep growing inside me.

So what is a partial molar? From www.babycenter.com.au:

“In most partial molar pregnancies, the fertilised egg has 23 chromosomes from the mother but a duplicated set from the father. This means there are a total of 69 chromosomes instead of the normal 46. This can happen when chromosomes from the sperm are copied or when two sperm fertilise the same egg.

In a partial molar pregnancy, a placenta will start to grow. This means an embryo does begin to develop. There may be a fetus, or some fetal tissue, or an amniotic sac. But even if there is a fetus, it is important to understand that it simply doesn't have the right genetic make-up to survive.

Doctors sometimes describe a molar pregnancy as a hydatidiform mole. Molar pregnancy is one of a group of conditions called gestational trophoblastic tumours. Although they are called tumours, they are usually not cancerous. They may spread beyond the uterus (womb), but can be cured.

Molar pregnancies are rare. About one in every 1,000 pregnancies in Australia is a molar pregnancy”

I am happy that at the end all was good and I had such a great support from my family, friends and the hospital staff. Now all I had to wait was 6 months of good hormone results ( until May/18) to be able to start trying to get pregnant again. So yes we waited and were careful… until I got the call from the hospital in March/18… but that will be for the next post 😉

A MOM learning about loss after 30...

After so many sleeping issues we went to Karitane – Is it worth it?

I would say that Karitane saved my life. Since my daughter was born she was never a good sleeper, she would take her time to sleep and wake up easily after 2/3 hours sleep. I tried a range of techniques that I found in the internet, but nothing would work for her. At 5 months old I realized my life could no longer be like this as in less than 2 months I was going to be back at work full time, so I went to the early childhood center, talked about my issue and they referred me to the Karitane Day saying that they would be able to give me the techniques to make her sleep easier and longer. I went there but by the end of the consultation the nurse said: “I never experienced this kind of behavior, I could not make her sleep”.

So yes, I was not lying she was a hard one so they referred me to Karitane week stay, which I ended up being place at their Carramar hospital and I was so amazed by everything.

To start the facilities were amazing, I had my own private room, bathroom and she had a small room for her cot that would connect with my room but was the perfect environment for her to sleep with little light, background music and a safe cot. The first night was the hardest but the nurses were with me all the way, some tips that I learned there, and I use until today:

-          Babies should have their own bed and own room to be able to sleep longer

-          Babies should fall sleep on the cot, not breastfeeding or on my arms

-          Background music can sooth them and if they wake up they will look around and go back to sleep as the environment they went to sleep is the same

-          I should only give her things she can’t lose at night and request my help with (milk bottles, dummies, little toys can be a distraction as if it falls or you need to help them with it they will find the perfect way to request your help). She went down with only a soft doll she liked, but it was hard to fall from the cot. (I only used this doll to sleep so she would relate to it).

-          When she went to sleep I would feed her, bath her, read her a book and put her on her cot, talk and reassure her and leave the room.

-          If she woke up at night I waited a couple of minutes to see if she would settle by herself if not I would just go back to the room sit on the floor and tap on her bum or on the mattress until she was sleepy again also making the Shussh sound. Sitting on the floor don’t give them the impression that you can pick them up.

-          Babies should never cry for long so if she cried a bit I would always go back to the room and reassure her but if she was stopping and starting again she could have been learning how to calm down and eventually go to sleep by herlself.

-          Routine is very important, and I used all I learned for a good 3 months before starting to sometimes make changes, but all was so good that I was afraid to change anything.

-          Her routine was set with 2 x 1-hour sleeps during the day and a long sleep from 7pm to 7am at night. It was unbelievable at first but until today she is doing the same. (She is now 26 months). At 7pm she is already in bed waiting for her story time

This video resumes it quite a bit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsMEOXratlk

So, if you are struggling and need help I would recommend them 100%, sure I had to really focus on the routine after but they gave me the best start I could possibly get and I will thank them immensely. I hope to be able to start doing some of those routines with my newborn in December this year, so I don’t need to endure 6 months of non-sleep again.

Here are some useful parent resources they provide: https://karitane.com.au/dynamicpage/for-parents/resources

A MOM #1fan of Karitane after 30

Long Haul Travel with babies and toddlers

This is a long post, sorry, but I think many details are worth sharing…

I went to Brazil twice since my baby girl was born. First when she was around 6 months and after when she was 18 months. It takes around 25 hours from Australia to Brazil, being 2 flights (one of around 14 hours) and around 5 hours connection and here are the experiences:

6 Months Old - BABY – This was my first airplane experience with my baby. Luckily this time around I had my Mom on the same flight which made it much easier as without her support I think I would have panicked. I bought a Quinny Zapp Pram which was supposed to be great for flights (not really good in my opinion). I ended up leaving it in Brazil as it was a just an extra bulk thing to carry as my daughter didn’t like to seat on it. She preferred to stay on the ergo baby most of the time where she could sleep well.

We brought many things to the plane and didn’t use half, because the noise of the plane made her quite sleepy. (Also I was giving her the Bauer Sleep, just in case). She had her first meal and started to fall sleep. I was lucky enough to have a basinet, which was very handy, so I put her down and she had a good 4 hours sleep, when she woke up I gave her a feed and down she went again for another 3-4hours… I could not believe almost half of the flight was gone. She woke up again and was almost Breakfast time we played a bit until we landed and it was time for the connection in Santiago.

During the quite long connection I had to carry the travel pram as she didn’t want to seat on it . Still it was good to just walk around, play with her and time went fast. On the second flight to Sao Paulo things were a bit different space wise but still she was able to sleep on my lap for a bit. I felt like a winner when I got to the destination and the return flight ended up to be quite similar, but firstly I didn’t carry half of the food, toys and stuff I had on my hand and also I got rid of the pram as she was not going to use it anyway.

Thanks to Qantas I had some awesome space, great care from the cabin crew and good food for me and for her. I am quite sure they made the difference for us to be able to enjoy this flight.

18 Months Old – TODDLER – As our first experience was not as bad we felt confident to go to Brazil again.

Luckily this time I was also able to upgrade the way in to Economy Plus with Qantas, as I had points, which made it even more enjoyable. We had better space and also a basinet, even though she was already 18 months, but as she was still under 10 kilos she was able to use and did sleep half of the flight again there.

This time she was quite mobile, so she did want to walk around corridors and check out the toilet many times, but it was good to see that everyone on the plane understood she was just a toddler and would play and smile at her. I brought her portable DVD which made her watch Moana and Frozen many times and gave me also some quite time. I liked the idea better than the IPAD as without Wi-fi I didn’t want her to be frustrated.

Also, this time I bought a Yoyo Pram (generic) from Ebay as I didn’t want to waste much money in case I had to leave it again back in Brazil. But now this really worked as she enjoyed being pushed around instead of walking (I would not carry her at the ergo anymore). This generic pram saved my life in many occasions and even now she still uses it and became my regular pram.

The only bad experience we had this time was when we landed in Brazil that we had to wait around 40 minutes to leave the plane as we didn’t have a gate ready. It started getting quite hot inside the plane and she started screaming crazily. All passengers felt sorry for her and I felt sorry for them to hear all the screaming. But everyone understood was not her fault as we were stuck there. I know these things can happen, but I was not prepared for the situation and I didn’t know what to do. As soon as we could leave the plane all was good and back to normal.  

In general both experiences were not bad at all and I was quite amazed to see how well she behaved but here are my main tips:

-          Don’t pack more than what you can easily carry as after some hours you can’t handle all that weight

-          If you going to bring a travel pram buy it before and let the baby get used to it, plus bring the pram carry bag otherwise the pram will be dispatched, and you will not be able to use in the connection

-          Bring some entertainment for the baby that doesn’t rely on Wi-Fi (silly, I know but I saw mom’s panicking as they didn’t realize it was not going to work). There are some planes now with wi-fi but it will never work as well as at home.

-          Bring toddler headphones as you can’t have sound on the plane coming from Ipads/dvds. On one of the flights I didn’t know and had to make my daughter watch a MUTE video 😉

-          Bring some baby pegs to peg things around, it was handy when lights from the bathroom would go to directly to her face when she was sleeping

-          Try to be calm as if you are calm the baby seems to sense that this is a safe environment, and all will be ok.

-          Ask for help when needed, cabin crew were great and would always ask me if I needed anything else which made me feel very supported.

 I hope some ideas can help the next MOM about to flight with their babies and toddlers, which is not easy but worth it as there is always a reason for it. Mine was to see my family that is far away and I wanted them to be part of my daughter’s life.

If you have any other hacks and ideas that helped you comment below so we can share and help each other on this beautiful journey.

A traveler MOM after 30

                                                   *** 4 generations - Lots of LOVE ***

New MOM New JOB New LIFE!

My daughter’s first year…

If I think my daughter learned a lot this first year, I actually learned more…

She has always been quite an “advanced” kid which made my life a bit of a challenge.

She started by wanting to feed like a maniac and not wanting to sleep more than 2 hours straight (for her first 6 months). Which made her quite alert and learning to roll and even crawl at 5 months old. At 6 months she was sitting by herself until she got to 8 months and was standing up and started giving her first steps. It all happened so quickly.

At 9 months I had a kid that was confident to walk and go everywhere she wanted. This all made me see that I wanted to spend more time with her as if I didn’t watch her grow up, she would just grow up and disappear from my sight.

As returned to work full time when she was around 7 months old I pretty much lost a quite a bit of those milestones and when she was 10 months I decide to quit and find a part-time job to be able to part of her daily little life.

It was not easy to make this decision as I was in my old company for 11 years and really enjoyed the job and my colleagues, which were more like friends. But that was my main learning curve being a workaholic was not helping this new job I just signed up for of being a MOM.

Now after a while that I moved jobs I can also see that there are other jobs, people and companies out there, so not only she opened my eyes onto the amount of work I was doing but also that you can have a perfect work-life balance. You just need to be real with yourself and find what you really want.

Those 3 days a week that I work I really focus on my work but those 4 days that I spend with her we play more, have more fun and I feel that my daughter is much more connected to me. 

I learn things from her and she learn from me and I would not miss those first years for anything in this world.

Some decisions are hard to make but sometimes we need a little tiny cute hand pushing us to make us see the bigger picture…

A now non-workaholic MOM after 30

Back Again…hopefully for good

So much happened after my last post and here are some of the things I would like to share:

-          A whole year of my daughter growing up and having amazing milestones like walking by 8 months, childcare at 11 months, talking at 1 year. This was for sure a year of so much learning for her and for me too.

-          Travel to Brazil with a 5/6 months old baby, such a long haul but better than I expected in general with some tips worth sharing.

-          Visit to Karitane to make my daughter be a better sleeper and how this worked amazingly, which can’t make me thank enough every single midwife and nurse there.

-          The end of the reflux/milk allergy which not sure if was real and her craziness for all kinds of food, specially very acid and sour ones.

-          Being back to full time job for 6 months (when she was 7 months old) until I decided to quit my 11 years job to take care of my daughter and start a part time job.

-          Finding out I was pregnant again after 6 months of my new job, just after probation passed… just to find out I lost the baby after 2 weeks, doing a D&C  a finding out I had a partial molar which would make me wait for 6 months doing regular check ups to get pregnant again.

-          Another trip to Brazil now with a 1.5 years old baby, a bit more challenging but still good.

-          Get pregnant before the 6 months risk was over, we were quite careful, but still it happened, at the 3^rd month and go over so many tests to make sure I was really pregnant and not in a risk of something much more serious (Choriocarcinoma – Cancer).

-          Being here now pregnant at 21 weeks very healthy and happy ready to welcome my baby at the end of year when I will turn 37 years old ( Due date 14/Dec – My bday – 15/Dec).

I will go trough ever topic in the next months so I can share a bit of what I learn being a Mom after 30 😊

Reflux and Cow’s Milk allergy or Intolerance

It is very hard to see your baby “vomiting” after every feed. It started when she as around 2 months and got much worse at around 3 months. In the beginning, I imagined that this was because she would feed so quickly that she was overfeeding and for that reason, she needed to spit up, but when the projectile vomits started after every feed I decided to check it out with a Lactation consultant.

One thing that she notice was that my baby was slowly putting on less weight than before. Where her average was around 200 to 300 grams a week she had put only 500 grams in 1 month and that was a sign that something was not right. She was eating half breastmilk and half Nan HA formula, as I did not have enough milk.

Some babies are happy spitters meaning that they reflux but they are ok with it. However, my baby would anticipate the reflux coming and getting very upset and scream so the GP tried changing her formula to a more hydrolyzed formula (Aptamil) but still the symptoms were similar so she started on Losec medicine before feeds, which makes the acid reflux less acidic. She would still reflux but with less pain. However, as a Mum I did not want to keep her on a medicine for too long so I started researching and found out that Cow’s milk could cause Reflux and other symptoms that she had from birth but I did not think they were related. She had body rash, loose poos (which are not common when babies are having formula), she was very gassy and had lots of colic, she was always wheezing and making breathing noises, she winged the whole day and would not sleep at all. Those last two continues until today but that can be still reflex of anxiousness from the inflammation and pain she felt in beginning of her life. (There is a symptom checker here: http://www.neocate.com/help-for-parents/tools/symptom-checker/).

I decided to try as much as I could giving her more breastmilk, I started a dairy free diet, and that was it. In 1 week, she wanted more and more my breast (I was now on Boobies Bikkies and Motillium, and this made my supply increase). Still she was hungry so I went to a pediatrician he put her on Neocate formula which is an amino acids only based formula. She really loved and actually started refusing the breast. I guess that it is very hard to be 100% out of lactose and she felt much less pain on Neocate so I transitioned for 1 month and now at 5 months she is on Neocate only. Her skin is clean of the rashes, her poos are great, her gassiness is gone and she is a much happier baby. 

It is very hard to see your baby refusing to breastfeed but I know that it is for her own good in the end. I miss our night feeds and cuddles, but I still try to hug her tight while giving her the bottle now.

Two of the reasons for that milk allergy/intolerance (I state both here, as we are not sure what she has yet and there are big differences between those two) is being a genetic condition or the fact that I ate LOTS of dairy while pregnant. I really craved it and ate a bit too much. Either way now I need to make her feel better and help her not be anxious because of the pain and to sleep more. 

I am here for her and I want her to know that.

A mum that will do anything for her baby after 30

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